Here's your May edition of Kinsei-Do Fitness Nuggets, our monthly newsletter that serves you little bites of health & performance wisdom!
Nugget of the Month
IQ and EQ are great, but how's your PQ?
"Gee, you're such an idiot, how could you let XYZ happen?"
"Ungh, look at that guy, he must be so lazy / stupid / shortsighted / ...!"
Ever found yourself saying things like this about yourself or other people, be it out loud or just in your head? Beating yourself up about a mistake you made, or (silently) judging yourself or another person for the way they look, dress, speak, move, etc...
For the past couple of weeks, as I already mentioned in last month's Fitness Nuggets, I've been studying the work of Shirzad Chamin and Positive Intelligence (PQ), and while a high IQ and EQ are certainly valuable and very important to be successful in life, it appears that the secret ingredient for being happy in life is your PQ. And surely, as a reader of this newsletter, you're someone who is looking for both, right?
According to the theory of Positive Intelligence - and using their terminology - all of us have a wise and kind "person", a Sage, inside us, but we also have one or more less savoury characters, the so called Saboteurs, in our heads. The Saboteurs, characters such as the Judge, the Avoider, the Restless, the Hyper Achiever, etc, have developed in us when we were children, and they helped us to understand the world and how it works. You can go to the Positive Intelligence website if you're interested to find out the why and how.
Now, I know that all of this may sound a bit wishy washy, and not very scientific or rational at all, but here's where all of it falls into place: you can train your mind (to make the Sage stronger and the Saboteurs weaker)!
That's right, just like you do sets and reps in the gym to train your physical strength, you can also train and improve your mental fitness through - no surprise - PQ reps.
Your Saboteurs - there are ten in total, but the degree and strength of their appearance is very individualized - typically show up in situations that are associated with negative emotions: stress, anger, disappointment, etc.
Let's say you're in a work meeting and someone says something that doesn't make much sense, or goes against what you want and believe. Your typical reaction will probably be to judge this person for what they said, either out loud or just to yourself. "That guy is so stupid!" or "Why on earth would she say that?"
Often, this happens almost automatically and within milliseconds, and - the research has shown this - will set you on a spiralling path of more negative thoughts and emotions.
So what can you do instead? PQ Reps!
As soon as you realize your Judge Saboteur (or any of the others) has kicked in, reel that bad boy back in by calling him/her out in your head. Simply noticing negative-loop-reinforcing thoughts already greatly weakens their disruptive and destructive powers.
Next, focus your attention on the present moment, e.g. on your breath, or an ambient sound, a smell, etc for 10 seconds. This too weakens the impact of the negative thought, as it takes your mind away and brings it to focus on something physical, something neutral.
Finally, and this is already somewhat advanced and requires more practice, think to yourself how the Sage, instead of the Saboteur, would have reacted. The Sage is wise, kind and empathetic, what would he/she have said? Perhaps "I wonder why he said something like that, maybe he's having a very stressful day" or something to that effect?
Let this sink in, and I hope you'll give it a shot. Depending on how strong your Saboteurs are, and for how many years you have (unwillingly) trained them, it will take more than a couple of days or even weeks to take hold, but trust me, once it does, its impact is truly astonishing!
New episodes of Kinsei-Do Corner
My little pet project, the Kinsei-Do Corner podcast, which I started in 2020 at the beginning of the Covid-19 pandemic as a way of staying in touch and communicating with, as well as learning from, friends and people from the Indonesian functional fitness community, has recently achieved its first major milestone: 1000 downloads!
Over the years, the circle of my esteemed guests has widened and expanded, and included incredible conversations with amazing people as far as Japan, Ireland, Spain, Germany and even Canada.
My latest two guests, coincidentally, are two high performers of the film and movie industry, and very wise, funny and eloquent on top of that too!
Click on the cover images below to go directly to the episode:
"Overall I feel great with the (mobility) exercises, they give me stability and a sense of security in my everyday movements. They also help me reduce my usual left hip pains that come from carrying my son a lot."
These are the words of Mr. K., the first client I have been working with since completing my Primal Mobility coach certification earlier this year, and it's clear that Primal's methods are working like a charm!
If you're experiencing pain, discomfort or movement restrictions in your daily life and regular activities, there's a high chance that strength-based mobility training can help you lessen the issues and even return you to fully functional capabilities again.
We are nearing that time of the year again...that's right, summer is around the corner!
Obviously, living in the tropics, summer for me isn't about finally getting rid of the cold weather and dark days, and getting to spend more time outside and under the sun, but rather, it's that time of the year where we escape the concrete jungle that is Jakarta, head over to Europe to enjoy time with friends and family, breathe air that doesn't slowly kill us, and spend time in nature.
This year, on top of Germany and Austria, where we've spent at least a week in each of the past three summers, we are also going to Barcelona and Brussels for a bit. To say I'm excited would be an understatement!
What are your summer plans?
Until next time, stay healthy and well!
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